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I'm trying to find a political organization which concerns itself with the prevention of rape. That is, the problem is with our society and not the women yet the emphasis are on women protecting themselves and helping survivors. What is being done to make the streets safer? There has to be someone with whom I can pool my efforts. —Steve

Thanks for your commitment to ending rape. You are not alone. There are many great organizations doing very similar work—many which you should join forces with.

Men's Groups include:

  • Men Against Rape and Pornography, PO Box 81856, Pittsburgh, Pa 15217
  • Men's Anti-Rape Resource Center, PO Box 73559, Washington, DC 20056
  • Men Stopping Rape, Inc., PO Box 316, 306 North Brooks Street, Madison, Wisconsin 53715
  • Oakland Men's Project, Oakland, CA
  • Men's' Issues Discussion Group, Reed College, 3203 NE Woodstock Blvd., Portland, OR 97202.
  • Men Stopping Rape, Inc., PO Box 316, 306 North Brooks Street, Madison, WI 53715.
  • National Organization for Men Against Sexism, c/o MOVE, 54 Mint Street, Suite 300, San Francisco, CA 94103.
  • You might also check out our section of Pro-Feminist Men's Groups and our Violence Against Women links.
Good luck. —Amy

I am a fifteen-year-old sophomore doing research on rape as a topic for a school project. I am interested in any other information you could offer concerning this subject. Thank you. —Andi

Thanks for your note to Feminist.com—and for taking the time to "educate" your sophomore class on the topic of rape. In an ideal world, I wish we could spend our school projects on more celebratory things, but given the prevalence of things such as rape this is where we should be putting our energies. Education is the first step toward positive results and empowerment, so thanks for encourage other steps. That said, here are some things you should know:

"Somewhere in America a woman or girl is raped every 2 minutes." by National Crime Victimization Survey, Bureau of Justice, 1996.

"In 1995, 354,670 women were victims of rape or sexual assault." by National Crime Victimization Survey, Bureau of Justice, 1996.

"Approximately 28% of victims are raped by their husbands or boyfriends, 35% by acquaintances, and 5% by other relatives." by Violence Against Women Bureau, Bureau of Justice Statistics.

"The FBI estimates that only 37% of rapes are reported to the police."

"A majority of rape service agencies believe that public education about rape and expanded counseling and advocacy services for rape victims would be effective in increasing the willingness of victims to report rapes to the police."

"One of every four reported rapes takes place in a public area or in a parking garage."

Organizations to contact for more information:

Books you could reference:

  • Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape by Susan Brownmiller (Bantam Books, NYC, 1975)
  • I Never Called It Rape by Robin Warshaw
These books and others are available at the Feminist.com Bookstore under "Violence Against Women". I hope these help with your project. Good luck. —Amy

I am 19, and I was sexually abused by my father between 6 and 12. I see the "flashes" from my past. I manifest the sexual disturbances. I have no excitation. I've never had an orgasm. I make love "only for his pleasure." I feel a little thing when I masturbate but I am not completely sure what it is. In the street, sometimes I need to see a man direct to eyes to excite him a little bit (I'm not ugly at all). If he takes a risk to speak me, I refuse him firmly. I feel a pleasure with this kind of humiliation of men. After that, I feel nasty, repugnant. I want to heal.


Thanks for your note to Feminist.com. Unfortunately, I'm not a doctor and therefore, can't professionally answer your question. However, through my work with women's issues, I am familiar with many resources in response to sexual abuse. I also personally know many people who have had similar experiences. In many instances it takes talking openly and honestly about the abuse to be able to have healthy sexual relations. In other instances it takes the trust and assurance that you lover can provide to assure you that sex can be safe and not violating. Here are some books I suggest you take a look at to help you move toward this place of safety.

  • Your Inner Child of the Past by W. Hugh Missildine
  • Father Daughter Incest by Judith Lewis Herman
  • The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
  • Betrayal Trauma: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse by Jennifer J. Freyd
  • Breaking Down the Wall of Silence: The Liberating Experience of Facing Painful Truth by Alice Miller
Visit the Feminist.com Bookstore (under "Violence Against Women") for these books and other ideas. I hope this helps—and good luck —Amy

The apartment manager where I live is female and continues to call me "Miss America" or "Good Looking." These terms make me feel very uncomfortable and seem to be "put downs." Can sexual harassment be female to female? (probably a dumb question) and can it exist outside the framework of employer-employee? Thanks. —Mary


I'm sorry that you have been subjected to comments that make you feel uncomfortable. Sexual harassment is a fine line and I'm not an expert. From what I know, I would say "yes" that it can be "female to female" and "no" it does not exist outside of the framework of the "employer-employee." If it falls out of the context of the workplace, I think that it becomes verbal sexual discrimination or something like that. As I understand sexual harassment laws, they were established to prevent women and men from being subjected to unnecessary and sometimes harmful comments and gestures that are gender based. These comments/gestures come from a "superior" and therefore innately intimidate the employee, leaving them little room to speak our against their "superior." This then creates an workplace that it not comfortable to work in.

As for your situation, it sounds like a good first step would be to simply tell your apartment manager that although she may mean for her comments to be flattering, they make you feel uncomfortable. If that doesn't work, maybe try subtle threats and if that doesn't work....maybe look for a new apartment.

I hope that helps. Good luck. —Amy

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