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                                              MS: HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE 
                                            YOUR OWN POLITICAL BELIEFS? 
                                            KN: First and foremost, I'm 
                                            a feminist. And basically that stems 
                                            from a strong belief that all people 
                                            and creatures deserve equal opportunity, 
                                            rights and respect.
                                          
                                            
                                          
                                          
 MS: THESE DAYS A LOT OF WOMEN 
                                            ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH DEFINING THEMSELVES 
                                            AS FEMINIST, YET YOU INSIST ON BEING 
                                            IDENTIFIED THAT WAY AND MUCH OF YOUR 
                                            WORK HAS BEEN CATEGORIZED AS FEMINIST 
                                            COMEDY. WHAT DOES THAT TERM MEAN TO 
                                            YOU? 
                                            KN: Well, it depends on the 
                                            context in which I use it. But, even 
                                            when we came to New York and were 
                                            doing the first "Kathy and Mo", I'd 
                                            say to our publicist, "Put feminist 
                                            comedy on the poster." And they'd 
                                            say, "No, why don't you do this. Don't 
                                            put it. Have them come and then surprise 
                                            them. Let them learn something without 
                                            knowing." And I would say, "No. If 
                                            people who are feminists and wholeheartedly 
                                            believe in feminism don't take pride 
                                            and joy and totally stick it in people's 
                                            faces, then the stigma attached to 
                                            feminism will never change." Then 
                                            you'll never have to prove things 
                                            like that because when people think 
                                            of feminism they will think of being 
                                            smart and funny and likable. People 
                                            say "Don't put feminism" because they 
                                            think oh, there's no sense of humor 
                                            and it's cold and it's off-putting 
                                            - well, how is that going to change 
                                            if the real feminists who are nothing 
                                            like that - most of them - don't start 
                                            saying "I'm feminist". It will just 
                                            continue and continue and continue. 
                                            So, I said, "Put it on the poster 
                                            and then when they come they'll be 
                                            even more surprised." I don't know 
                                            where that came from in the first 
                                            place - that myth about no sense of 
                                            humor and all that - most of the feminists 
                                            I know are hilarious, very. So, I 
                                            don't know where that came from in 
                                            the first place but we need to blast 
                                            that away so we don't have to go over 
                                            that hump. So we don't even need to 
                                            approach that problem - it's so old 
                                            and tired. And it's certainly not 
                                            true and that's how I started insisting 
                                            on using the word feminist.  
                                           I use it now because, well, because 
                                            I am, and it just comes out of my 
                                            mouth, but second of all, like you 
                                            say, there are a lot of people who 
                                            know me in a different way - they 
                                            know me as the cheerful nun from "Sister 
                                            Act". So if the cheerful nun from 
                                            "Sister Act" is everywhere you read 
                                            saying she's feminist, how can they 
                                            attach those stigmas of no sense of 
                                            humor and not warm, if they already 
                                            like you? Also, I think it's important 
                                            for the next generation. And I do 
                                            it as a pride thing - like I say I'm 
                                            Lebanese the same way I say I'm feminist 
                                            because I'm proud of being Lebanese 
                                            - I think it's cool - and I think 
                                            it's cool to be feminist. And what 
                                            feminism means - I guess I could go 
                                            into the definition, but I think of 
                                            it as equality, choice, fairness. 
                                            Respect for animals and children and 
                                            men and women and equality. It's something 
                                            that's based in a very loving theory 
                                            for me. And the term post-feminist 
                                            bugs the shit out of me. What's that 
                                            about? It's like people who are unable 
                                            to deal. So I'll keep saying it as 
                                            many times as I can to make up for 
                                            the people who are scared to or think 
                                            it's bad vibe or whatever, because 
                                            I think it's good vibe. 
                                           MS: YOU HAVE DEVELOPED A REPUTATION 
                                            FOR BEING STRONG, SPEAKING YOUR MIND, 
                                            IGNORING CONVENTION. IS THIS HOW YOU'D 
                                            LIKE THE PUBLIC TO PERCEIVE YOU? 
                                            KN: You know one thing I've 
                                            been getting afraid of reading some 
                                            of the articles about me is that I'm 
                                            not representing - along with the 
                                            confidence -the insecure and fear-filled 
                                            parts of me. So, I've been trying 
                                            to talk about that a little bit too 
                                            just so if people really want to get 
                                            to know who I am they get a more balanced 
                                            view. Because when you're asked a 
                                            question, the sanest part of your 
                                            mind sometimes answers. But I don't 
                                            always operate on the sanest part 
                                            of my mind. A lot of times I'm filled 
                                            with fear, insecurity, vulnerability, 
                                            misdirection, confusion and doubt. 
                                            And I just want to make sure I include 
                                            that in my answers because that certainly 
                                            is a real part of me.
                                          
                                            
                                            MS: YOU'VE BEEN VERY VOCAL 
                                            ABOUT THE ISSUE OF CHOICE. FOR YOU, 
                                            WHAT IS THE REAL ISSUE HERE? WHY SHOULD 
                                            WOMEN HAVE THIS RIGHT? 
                                            KN: Well, here's the issue. 
                                            If you don't have your rights, I don't 
                                            have my rights. It's a little bit 
                                            selfish. People say, 'Well, why do 
                                            you work for gay and lesbian rights? 
                                            Why do you work for whatever?" If 
                                            you don't have your rights, I don't 
                                            have my rights. Especially as a woman, 
                                            I don't have my rights. And the absolute 
                                            right that we have is the right to 
                                            our own body. You have the absolute 
                                            right to your own body. If you don't 
                                            wish to have an abortion, God bless 
                                            you and I hope you have a long and 
                                            happy life. And if I wish to, it is 
                                            my business and not yours. . . I mean, 
                                            how many homeless kids can there be, 
                                            how many AIDS babies can there be? 
                                            How many single, young mothers can 
                                            there be? It's so glaringly obvious 
                                            that their energy, if they really, 
                                            truly care about life - if they call 
                                            me up right now, I can give them fifty 
                                            places where they could be effective 
                                            with their caring, to save lives. 
                                            They want to save babies? I can give 
                                            them the number of a pediatric AIDS 
                                            ward in Harlem where they can go and 
                                            save as many babies as they want. 
                                            I so encourage saving babies, I adore 
                                            babies. They want to save young teenage 
                                            girls' lives, I can give them fifty 
                                            more numbers. So, it's so clearly 
                                            not about saving young girls' lives, 
                                            it's not about saving babies lives', 
                                            it's not about wishing a full, productive, 
                                            happy life on someone. It's not about 
                                            that. It's about some weird powerful 
                                            obsession to play God. To say, "Listen, 
                                            I f-cked my life up, or I neatly organized 
                                            my life and it's resulted the way 
                                            I want, I'm not going to need an abortion, 
                                            so I'm going to stop you from having 
                                            one." And especially men. I can't 
                                            even talk about men being in the Choice 
                                            issue - it's so none of their fucking 
                                            business. That's so appalling to me. 
                                            That's like us making the rules for 
                                            people on another planet. It's none 
                                            of their business. 
                                          
  
                                          
                                          
 MS: A LOT OF PEOPLE SAY IF 
                                            MEN WERE THE ONES WHO GOT PREGNANT, 
                                            ABORTION WOULD BE EXTREMELY ACCESSIBLE. 
                                            KN: Not only would abortion 
                                            be legal, you would be able to go 
                                            to 7-11 and get one, for like 75 cents. 
                                            You know, that's ridiculous. And when 
                                            I say it's none of men's business, 
                                            of course I don't mean like the father 
                                            of the children. I, of course, think 
                                            men should be involved in all decisions 
                                            having to do with their child, but 
                                            as a political voice, please - bite 
                                            me. And not only abortions, but birth 
                                            control. Birth control would be safe, 
                                            legal and effective. Cheap, healthful 
                                            - there would be no question. Birth 
                                            control would be like oat bran.  
                                        
                                          
                                           
                                           MS: THAT'S ANOTHER POINT - 
                                            THAT THESE ANTI-CHOICE PEOPLE ARE 
                                            ALSO ANTI-BIRTH CONTROL. IT'S A NO 
                                            WIN SITUATION.  
                                            KN: And the capper is anti-Choice 
                                            people are so against sex education. 
                                            So, we won't tell you you can get 
                                            pregnant. We won't give you any help 
                                            in not getting pregnant. We won't 
                                            talk to you about sex or abstinence. 
                                            We won't tell you the truth about 
                                            sex, and yet when you get pregnant, 
                                            we're going to make you have the baby. 
                                          
                                            
                                          
                                          
 MS: NOW WITH THE REHAULING 
                                            OF WELFARE SYSTEM, SINGLE TEENAGE 
                                            MOTHERS MAY NOT ONLY LOSE WELFARE 
                                            BUT THEIR CHILD TO AN ORPHANAGE. 
                                            KN:Welfare, AIDS, child abuse, 
                                            teenage pregnancy, poverty, homelessness 
                                            - we can go on and on and on and on. 
                                            And if they wished to be involved 
                                            with making lives full, or with helping 
                                            babies - like I say, there are so 
                                            many avenues that need help. We don't 
                                            need help with decisions about what 
                                            to do about our bodies. We need sex 
                                            education, we need birth control, 
                                            we need understanding and we need 
                                            respect and we need for them to leave 
                                            us alone.
                                          
                                            
                                          
                                          
 MS:D O YOU THINK THAT THE GAINS 
                                            OF THE WOMEN'S MOVEMENT HAVE DONE 
                                            ANYTHING TO ERODE THE PATRIARCHY THAT 
                                            EXISTS IN THIS COUNTRY? 
                                            KN: It's done something. I don't 
                                            know that it's been enough. I still 
                                            feel like we're still in that chasm 
                                            of where people believe that there's 
                                            a phrase called "post-feminism". I 
                                            think Susan Faludi has her finger 
                                            right on the answer when she talks 
                                            about the backlash, and I think we're 
                                            still right in the middle of it. It's 
                                            like we were working really hard, 
                                            and even though there was really strong 
                                            opposition, you could actually feel 
                                            when we progressed. You could feel 
                                            the progression. Some fights would 
                                            be so hard and so slow and so painful, 
                                            but then you could see the results. 
                                            And it seemed like we were slowly 
                                            toiling forward. And then all of a 
                                            sudden, this veil dropped down of, 
                                            "Everything's OK, and it's not important 
                                            to be political and, in fact, it's 
                                            not even popular. And everything's 
                                            done, enough is done and now we can 
                                            talk about it like it was long ago." 
                                            And I think there are certain little 
                                            movements that are shooting out of 
                                            that, like there's a group called 
                                            "The Third Wave". It's started by 
                                            Rebecca Walker, Alice Walker's daughter 
                                            and Shannon Liss. And it's young women, 
                                            and it's really organized, they're 
                                            really cool and they're really angry 
                                            - it's a bunch of young women saying, 
                                            "OK, we got to a certain point and 
                                            then the ball was dropped and now 
                                            it feels like we're going backwards 
                                            and that's not enough for us. We still 
                                            have our lives to live." 
                                          
                                            And so, you know, I think there 
                                            is a small chipping away at patriarchy 
                                            in different little projects and different 
                                            instances, but as a whole movement 
                                            - it doesn't feel like a movement 
                                            anymore. A movement to me is something 
                                            that's really big and united and really 
                                            hard to stop. And there are still 
                                            very concerned, very smart, very committed, 
                                            very political groups and people, 
                                            but it doesn't feel like a movement 
                                            to me. So, I'm sure little battles 
                                            are being won, but I'm really anxious 
                                            to get back to the arm-in-arm thing. 
                                            It's something that's very frustrating 
                                            to me because what it does, for me 
                                            at least, is encourages you to go 
                                            back in your own little hole and your 
                                            own little life and be only concerned 
                                            with your own little personal things. 
                                            And ultimately that's not very satisfying. 
                                            So, I'm all for a real, sort of a 
                                            1979 kind of big Earth Day kind of 
                                            movement, where we feel the movement 
                                            going forward, because you know that 
                                            nothing can really get done unless 
                                            you have that passion, that urgency. 
                                            Maybe it's going to take a bunch more 
                                            Newt Gingriches. 
                                            
                                          
                                          
 MS: MY MOTHER, WHO'S PRESIDENT 
                                            OF A COMPANY, ONCE LECTURED ME ABOUT 
                                            HOW MY GENERATION TAKES IT FOR GRANTED 
                                            HOW THEY HAD TO FIGHT TO GET WHERE 
                                            THEY ARE TODAY AND THAT IT'S UP TO 
                                            US TO KEEP UP THE MOMENTUM. 
                                            KN: Oh, yeah, absolutely. . 
                                            . Every time I do an interview, I 
                                            try to remember to say that I am so 
                                            proud of where I got, but I know that 
                                            I got here because of other people's 
                                            work also. I always point out Lily 
                                            Tomlin's one woman show, the work 
                                            that the women's movement did, that 
                                            allowed me - it's just not a fluke 
                                            that I am a political person from 
                                            San Diego that doesn't know anybody, 
                                            that doesn't look like a movie star, 
                                            that doesn't come from any connection, 
                                            that doesn't have any money - and 
                                            I am able to work in the business 
                                            and be known. It's not just because 
                                            I am so brilliantly magically talented 
                                            and special, you know what I mean? 
                                            It's because I was lucky enough to 
                                            come behind some people and organizations 
                                            that paved the way for me and that 
                                            made my kind of politics popular and 
                                            made society open for things like "Kathy and Mo" . . .It's great, but 
                                            it's also because of Gloria Steinem 
                                            and Whoopi Goldberg's one woman show 
                                            and Lily Tomlin's one woman show - 
                                            you know what I mean? Tons of people 
                                            who came before us, that said, "You 
                                            need to listen to us. And feminists 
                                            are funny." And these women do have 
                                            a point of view and took the chances 
                                            and the challenges before me. 
                                            And I'm really proud of myself. 
                                            And I know that I worked my ass off 
                                            to get where I am. I worked really, 
                                            really hard - but I also know that 
                                            even with all the hard work - and 
                                            with any talent that I have or whatever 
                                            - I wouldn't have gotten jack shit 
                                            if it wasn't for the women's movement 
                                            and the performers before me and the 
                                            people who take chances and the people 
                                            who fought for their rights and fought 
                                            to be heard and fought not to just 
                                            be silly little women in the background. 
                                            But now, it's like oy, God - it's 
                                            like pulling teeth to get any successful 
                                            women in Hollywood to acknowledge 
                                            where they came from.  
                                          
                                             
                                          MS: I REMEMBER YOU TALKED ABOUT 
                                            THAT IN ONE OF YOUR SPEECHES, ABOUT 
                                            HOW FEMALE DIRECTORS IN HOLLYWOOD 
                                            ARE HESITANT TO IDENTIFY THEMSELVES 
                                            AS A "WOMEN DIRECTORS". 
                                            KN: Well, because it's a boy's 
                                            club and they recognize it and they're 
                                            smart and they want a career. But 
                                            come on, we all know that just recently 
                                            women are being acknowledged as directors, 
                                            as far as like the last five years. 
                                            It's so new. Is that because women 
                                            are stupid or can't direct or are 
                                            not talented? No. It's because we 
                                            never acknowledged women, we never 
                                            encouraged women, we never employed 
                                            women, we never gave women opportunities 
                                            to be directors. So, for the women 
                                            who fought, for the first women who 
                                            went to film school and fought and 
                                            fought and fought - for the women's 
                                            movement, for all the women who came 
                                            before - now those women are able 
                                            to be directors. But they cannot forget 
                                            where they came from or how they got 
                                            there. Otherwise, what's the use of 
                                            fighting? So, yeah, it really, obviously 
                                            makes me angry. I mean, I really believe 
                                            in personal power, and I believe that 
                                            you should take the credit for the 
                                            hard work that you do, and I do, but 
                                            there's a way that you can also just 
                                            be smart and perpetuate the force 
                                            forward, by saying, "And we still 
                                            need these things to be done and thank 
                                            goodness for these people who did 
                                            this - men and women." 
                                          
                                            
                                          
                                          
 MS: YOU MENTIONED A COUPLE 
                                            OF ORGANIZATIONS LIKE THE THIRD WAVE 
                                            AND THE MS. FOUNDATION - ARE THERE 
                                            OTHER ORGANIZATIONS THAT YOU THINK 
                                            ARE DOING GREAT WORK IN THIS REGARD? 
                                            IF PERSON WANTS TO GET INVOLVED IN 
                                            WOMEN'S ISSUES - WHAT ORGANIZATIONS 
                                            WOULD YOU SUGGEST HE OR SHE CONTACT? 
                                            KN: I guess the organizations 
                                            that I've gotten the most gratification 
                                            from were the little community grass 
                                            roots organizations that I joined, 
                                            so I guess it's just it's just a matter 
                                            of calling and seeing if there's a 
                                            women's center, a women's resource 
                                            center or if you're passionate about 
                                            some certain cause in the women's 
                                            movement.. I mean, the women's movement 
                                            is every single thing we do all day 
                                            long. The women's movement to me, 
                                            feminism to me, is animal rights. 
                                            It's all based in that respect for 
                                            life and equality and all that. So, 
                                            I would just say try to pinpoint what 
                                            you're most passionate about and just 
                                            get involved in something in the community. 
                                            I mean, of course, there are groups 
                                            like the Ms. Foundation and NOW and 
                                            - Oh, God, there are billions of great 
                                            women's organizations. The Ms. Foundation 
                                            is excellent and Voters for Choice 
                                            is really excellent too. And then 
                                            organizations like GLAAD and Human 
                                            Rights Campaign Fund and Pediatric 
                                            AIDS - that's amazing, what Elizabeth 
                                            Glaser did by bringing that into the 
                                            consciousness of the whole country. 
                                            And you know, as unfair as it is, 
                                            it's a lot easier for people to enter 
                                            the world of caring about AIDS if 
                                            they do it through something non-threatening 
                                            as children .. .  
                                           
  When people ask me, "Well, why are 
                                            you so into gay rights? If you don't 
                                            think you're going to need to get 
                                            an abortion - why do you care? Why 
                                            do you care so much about AIDS organizations?" Well, it's me - you know what I mean? 
                                            It's me. What's happening is me. And 
                                            it may happen to me, which is selfish, 
                                            and it does happen to my friends and 
                                            family and it can't be other. Animals 
                                            can't be other, people with AIDS can't 
                                            be other, women who need a choice 
                                            can't be other, gay people can't be 
                                            other, because once you start limiting 
                                            their rights, you limit mine. As a 
                                            woman, I'm a minority. And once other 
                                            people's rights start getting taken 
                                            away, it's a step towards taking mine 
                                            away. So, I have to, in my own self 
                                            interest, I have to try to protect 
                                            the rights of others, because as those 
                                            rights get chipped away, it's six 
                                            degrees of separation. You know? And 
                                            so, it's impossible for me to think 
                                            of injustice, oppression, discrimination 
                                            and non-freedom as not having to do 
                                            with me - it totally has to do with 
                                            me. Maybe I'm not sleeping with a 
                                            woman right now, but gay rights affects 
                                            me. And maybe I'm not HIV positive, 
                                            but AIDS completely affects me. So, 
                                            it's like sort of organically happened 
                                            that I've gotten involved with these 
                                            groups - I mean, there are tons more 
                                            issues that I care about, but because 
                                            of the business that I'm in and because 
                                            of the path that I've made and the 
                                            connections that I've made in my world 
                                            so far, this is where I've been led. 
                                          And I hope it's where I'm most effective.  
                                           Things being right affects us all. 
                                            Caring that we live in a right world, 
                                            in a just world, no matter what. You 
                                            know, you can't separate yourself 
                                            - no matter how much money you have, 
                                            no matter how famous you are, no matter 
                                            how religious you say you are, no 
                                            matter how many family members you 
                                            have, no matter how great a job you 
                                            have - you are affected by the injustices 
                                            of the world. You are no matter what. 
                                            You can't buy not having AIDS, you 
                                            know? And so, it is a choice I make, 
                                            but in the same breath it's not a 
                                            choice that I make. It's that I live 
                                            here.  
                                          
                                             
                                          MS: WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE 
                                            TO THE PUBLIC ON BECOMING ACTIVE? 
                                            KN:  think that one of the 
                                            reasons that people don't become politically 
                                            active is because they think they 
                                            won't be effective. They doubt the 
                                            work that they would do, they doubt 
                                            the knowledge that they have, they 
                                            think they have to know more or put 
                                            more time or money than they really 
                                            need to. So, I think the first thing 
                                            I would say is, explore what you're 
                                            passionate about and then have faith 
                                            that you can make a difference. I 
                                            always say, a little bit helps. You 
                                            don't have to become a full-time member 
                                            of an organization to be effective. 
                                            A letter helps. It's like, I know 
                                            some people who still eat meat, they 
                                            eat chicken or fish and so they feel 
                                            like they can't be an animal rights 
                                            activist - but everything helps. As 
                                            much as you can do helps - you don't 
                                            have to be perfect, you don't have 
                                            to be an expert, you don't have to 
                                            have hours and hours of free time 
                                            or tons and tons of money. You don't 
                                            have to go to workshops to know about 
                                            it. All you have to do is have faith 
                                            in your passion. And it really makes 
                                            your life a lot better. You feel like 
                                            you're making a difference.  
                                           
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