Per
your note to FEMINIST.COM--I
noticed that you ended your
letter stating: "You're saying
they [women] can't decide for
themselves: they're only women."
I actually think it is you (and
many others, too) who are underestimating
the ability of Monica Lewinsky
to decide for herself whether
or not to have a sexual encounter
with the President. My take
is that both Monica and the
President did decide for themselves.
I wasn't 21 too long ago, so
I am well aware of how in control
over our sexual lives most women
are at that age (or at least
we are trying to be)--and Monica
doesn't seem like any exception
to this experience.
Another point was about Gloria
Steinem's "hypocrisy." Although
I can't speak for Gloria Steinem,
I would like to point out that
she has always been very clear
that she is "for the rights
and freedoms of all women everywhere"--this
would include Monica's right
to consensual sex--as well as
Anita Hill's freedom from non-consensual
sex.
And in response to one of your
other points: "If that were
the evil Newt Gingrich or that
devil Bob Dole that was under
investigation, would your group
condone and excuse their actions?"--First,
we are not "a group" that would
make such a statement, we are
a website that provides resources
and information about women's
lives. Second, the answer is:
if Newt Gingich and/or Bob Dole
were engaged in a consensual
relationship with another woman--I
wouldn't condone it. Consensual
is the keyword. I also want
to point out that infidelity
cuts across party lines--as
does relationships with younger
women. Bob Dole left his first
wife for a much younger woman.
Newt Gingrich left his first
wife while she was dying of
cancer for a young second wife.
George Bush was even having
an affair during his presidency.
As a feminist, I am not remaining
silent to "protect Clinton"--I
have actually been very clear
about my belief that: If these
allegations are true and if
this was a consensual relationship--it
is not my business to condemn
or condone anyone. If we learn
that Clinton did "force" Monica
into an uncomfortable situation
I will certainly think harder.
Amy
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