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Dear Amy,

I live with my fiancé and his brothers and sisters and their step father. My mother passed away and my fiancé's mother passed away so now it's just me, him, the step father, and the kids.

My fiancé has a very very bad temper and the step father has his times two. The step father has been sexually harassing me by asking me to sleep with him and he wants to try and touch me and he tells me not to tell anyone.

If I tell my fiancé, him and his stepfather will go at it then the police will be called and section will come to the house and take the kids away. I don't want that to happen because I cant live with that being my fault.

I don't know what to do.




Dear Anonymous,

Clearly there is no easy answer to your situation -- everyone gets hurt regardless. I think that you need to think about what is in the best interest of the most people -- and specifically the kids. The police might come and take them away, but perhaps that is better for them, abusive households do no one any good.

Also, I think that you should try to think about your fiancé is someone you really want to be with -- given these abusive tendenies. In most situations, abuse only escalates without being dealt with -- without him dealing you might be setting yourself up for a worse situation, not better.

Good luck -- and I hope you are able to find some resolution.


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