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Dear Amy,

I just want to simply share this story with you.

One of the most exciting things has just happened to me!: I got cast in a part at my college in Eve Ensler's "The Vagina Monologues"! I am very excited!

As an actress, whenever I need to study a role, I do research to get a much better understanding of the parts I play. In this case: Feminism. Before this, I had the wrong impression of feminism. I've met quite a few women who were anti-feminist, who believed that feminism has been taken "too far", and that it ruined the traditional roles of a "woman's place in society, which as a housewife, a caretaker for her husband and children". They made feminists sound like they were evil beings, and I didn't like that at all. I want to have a career before any of these things - that's my choice. So, it made me think that they thought "I" was evil for defying those traditions. On the other hand, I've met some women who claimed they were feminists, but had this huge grudge against men or thought that women were better than men.

So, I thought that if you wanted to be a feminist, you HAD to think that you were better than men, but at the same time, I couldn't stand those who were against feminism. Just to let you know: I wasn't against feminism or feminists. I was against the idea of being anti-male or changing my beliefs just to be accepted as a feminist and other feminists. Luckily, I've found that there is a HUGE difference between a true feminist and a sexist. I learned that feminists are for equality between men and women, and about the different sects (even though I learned that a few feminists aren't crazy about the sects). I learned that it was okay to still adore guys and be for Women's' Rights at the same time! ^^ I learned that feminism has brought us so many rights that have helped improve our lives. I didn't have a full understanding towards feminism at all, I'm sorry to say. Now that I am doing "The Vagina Monologues" and have a much better understanding to the true meaning of feminism, I embrace feminism like I never have before. You could say that I found the "feminist" in me.  

From everything that I've learned, I feel that girls around my age group - late teens to early twenties - don't realize how lucky we are! We have almost everything that the women before us hoped to have now. I can't imagine our world without having legal abortions, the right to vote, birth control pills, etc., etc., etc. We're really lucky, and as a young girl, I'm thankful for the women who fought for these rights! I'm looking forward to becoming a woman myself now!

There are some things a few select feminists believe in that I, personally, don't (the whole porn being linked with sexual abuse issue for one -- I know I'm NOT the only one). And there are still some things I like that a few feminists don't like (Eminem for example - I've always been a fan of his, I still am, because I don't take his lyrics seriously at all.). But that's me, and I wouldn't change anything about myself just to be accepted by others. I respect people for their opinions that are opposite of mine, so I hope that others will do the same for me. I found a website to helped me understand myself as a feminist called Feminists For Free Expression (http://www.ffeusa.org/index.html). As feminists, isn't that what we do? Stick to our own beliefs, but respect others' as well? Isn't that all a part of being - not just a good feminist, but a good person?

So, Amy, I am a new-born-baby-feminist! There's so much more I want to absorb, too. It's just that now that I've found my feminist side, I don't want anyone to get the wrong impression of me. Like I don't want the anti-femmes to think I believe following traditions is wrong (even though I defy them since it's my choice to want to become a career woman instead) or that I am anti-male like the sexists. If I have to defend myself as a feminist, that's going to be the tough part. And because I am young, people might think, "She has no idea what she's talking about, she's too young." But the truth is, at least I NOW know the true meaning of feminism, because I've found the "feminist" in me!!!!! *smiles*



PS: It's up to you whether or not you want to put this email on your site. Either way is fine with me. Like I said, I just wanted to share this story with you. *lol*

Keep up the good work on Feminist.com!


Kristine --

What a totally inspiring email!

We will also share with Eve -- and good luck in your role.

-- Amy

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