home what'snew resources ask amy news activism antiviolence events marketplace aboutus
Ask a Question!
Meet Amy!
Amy's Resource Guide
Ask Amy Main
Most Asked Questions
Reproductive Rights
Sexual Harassment
Violence Against Women
Women's History
Girls/ Children

Dear Amy,

I’m a 15, going on 16, year old girl who just became a Junior. I've known this boy who is currently 16 so he is about a year older than me, but we're in the same grade level. I've known him since 8th grade. We are really good friends.

About a month ago we started flirting a lot. He would come over and hang out at my friend’s house because my parents were never home. The whole time we would cuddle and just smile at each other. I text him every now and then and sometimes he replies, but sometimes he’s working. Lately I've been wanting to be more than just friends with him, but I don’t know what he’s thinking. I have my friend talk to him without him knowing I told her to. She found out that he’s stuck on a 60/40%. 60%= He doesn’t want to lose me as a friend. 40%= He likes me. I want to make him decide. I would like him to ask me out, but I guess he is scared. I don’t know what to do? Should I tell him I like him?



Knowing relatively little about your situation, I'm not sure I can really offer adequate advice.

I will say that I don't think you should push it, if it's meant to be, let it be. The more you try to clearly define what is going on, the more likely you are to push him away, sometimes solely because he doesn't want to promise something he can't deliver on.

I think you should just continue as you have been and sooner or later it will become more clear. Plus, it's summer and that's a time to be more free and less tied down. I know that's not necessarily what you want, but it might be what he wants. Good luck figuring it all out...