I do think you can ask it in
a broader way though: can a couple survive when
one person is the sole breadwinner or the sole
worker? In my experience, relationships that
do the best are those where there is more equality,
and though income disparities are often inevitable,
knowing that you are contributing something makes
a larger difference. I do think resentment builds
and more than that, I think that insecurities
on the less contributing partner fester and that
Also, I think that there is
something larger to question which is direction,
commitment and ambition. I have many friends
where this is the challenge in their relationship:
one partner isn't as motivated and that has ripple
effects into other areas of their lives.
I do think gender has something to do with it.
It's harder on some of my female friends when
their male partners aren't motivated, they want
them to match their drive and also have a hard
time because they are focused on their own ambition
without having to take care of someone else.
All of that said, I don't really have an answer.
And perhaps the larger question I would ask
is why marriage? That forces you to merge economically
and yet you can stay together without putting
your relationship in that realm, yet you still
have all of the perks of love and commitment,
Good luck sifting through it all,