I think that your worry is realistic, not condescending--if
that was your concern.
It's a fine balance between
what we want and what is possible. Even if we
know that women are equal and capable of accomplishing
similar things - not everyone holds that belief
and so what we might want doesn't always become
I think that you can have these conversations
openly with the officers you work with. It's
likely that they are thinking about/aware of
the same things. And I think it's great that
you are even thinking about this.