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I am a final year Broadcast Journalism student at the University of Leeds. For my dissertation project, I have to produce a TV documentary treatment. This involves me doing all the research, including speaking (via telephone or e-mail) to possible contributors. I have to do pretty much everything apart from film it.

I am doing some research into the silent voice of men being abused in the home. It is seemingly apparent that men are just not being taken seriously when claims are being made against their abusive partner. Why do you think this is?

Would you agree that the balance is being toppled in favour of women and now there is an uneven balance?

Do you think it is acceptable that women can openly disparage men?

What do you think about adverts that show men in a bad light? If the role was reversed, this would be disastrous!

 

In general, I do think that men who are abused have few outlets to discuss that abuse and potential recourse. That said, I think it's incredibly complicated — mostly because while men and women are both abused, men are more likely to be the abusers of both. Also, male "violence" is known to do more "harm" and thus it is easier to quantify, which isn't to say that women's violence isn't damaging, but I think in the larger scope of things it has been less of a priority.

I think simply talking about violence and violent acts also overlooks the motivation — men are often violent as an expression of power or as a reaction against feeling powerless; whereas women are often violent exclusively because they feel powerless it's their reacting rather than men's violence which is a more deliberate action. This isn't excusing women's violence, but trying to understand what is behind it all. And when you look at childhood abuse there are patterns — men who are abused as boys tend to grow up to be abusers and girls who are abused as children tend to grow up to continue to be abused.

But yes, I think that female violence hasn't been dealt with for fear of what it means. And I do know that many feminist groups have been trying to figure out how to adequately and appropriately address female violence.

Amy