Today, while attending the Community College
of Southern Nevada, I was approached by a National
Guard (I believe) recruiter.
After assuring her that I wasn't interested in
joining her cause, she began to speak to my friend
and I about personal issues, such as my friends'
choice to smoke, and our intimate lives. After
hearing I was 17, she acted shocked to know that
I was in a sexual relationship (with a boyfriend
of 2 years), and proceeded to lecture me on birth
control. (I'm very informed about sexual safety,
and always use protection, so this was completely
She went on to say that pregnant women were not
given scholarships, and upon walking away from
the conversation, yelled "Keep your legs
closed!" at me in front of a large group
of people, while her accomplices (men in military
uniforms, also recruiters, I assume) laughed.
I don't know what any of this conversation had
to do with her job, but I willingly gave her
personal information that she used against me
as, what I believe to be, sexual harassment.
Is there anything I can do, such as notify the
National Guard of this kind of offensive behavior?
Thank you so much for your help,
P.S. Thank you so much for what you do in your
column. I think it's extremely admirable of you
to help so many feminists. I've also read both
of your books, Manifesta and Grassroots, which
I thought were great. Keep up the noble work!
What an uncomfortable situation. Though it
was offensive, unnecessary, etc... it really
doesn't fit within any definition that would
warrant a legal response.
However, she was representing
the National Guard and I'm sure that they have
some rules about behavior when it comes to that.
I would certainly report this directly to the
National Guard -- at a minimum she will get reprimanded
in some way. I know that such agencies take their
jobs very seriously and want their representatives
to represent them in the best possible way --
and her behavior doesn't seem to be reflecting
the image they would want out there. I would
also put this in writing to them -- it's good
to have a paper trail. If she does such things
in the future, this will be there as a reminder
or as further proof.
I hope that helps and sorry you had to experience
it in the first place. Thanks, too, for reading
Manifesta and Grassroots.