My wife who lives in New Jersey has a problem
in the work place with her boss whom on several
occasions has yelled and belittles her in front
of co-workers. She has on several occasions
asked him to please stop doing that and still
he continues to do it (it seem to her that he
actually enjoys doing it). She is a nervous
wreck, depressed and often breaks down crying
on the phone.
I myself am located in Florida and find myself
unable to do anything other then simply taking
the next plane out and maybe getting myself arrested. If
you happen to know what course of legal action
she can possibly take to put a stop to this once
and for all. Kindly let me know.
The laws related to official "sexual harassment" are
rather limiting --i.e. hostile environment, which
is what your wife seems to be experiencing, and
quid pro quo -- essentially a direct threat to
her job. The most important first step is for
her to document everything that is happening
to her -- when, where, what -- this will help
build a case for her -- and also perhaps reveal
a pattern that others might be experiencing,
too. Of course an easier answer is that she should
resign or quit, but I imagine that she has already
ruled out that option, which is understandable
and also doesn't entirely remedy the problem.
I think that what is extra-crazy making during
times like this is that people don't feel heard
or believed for listened to and so it's so important
that you provide that trusted sounding board.
Also, I would encourage her to consult her workplaces
HR offices -- and if the company is large enough
(over 25 employees) to go directly the to the
EEOC, the government branch in charge of monitor
and following through on such injustices. I hope
those suggestions lead to something.