of all--feminism isn't a monolith,
so all feminists don't think
alike. As a feminist, I would
be happy to answer your question,
but remember that this is only
one feminist perspective.
As I tried to explain in my
previous note, it is really
hard to make generalizations.
Personally, I have a wonderful
boyfriend. If I had to make
a choice about whether or not
to have an abortion, I would
include him in my decision.
He, however, would concur that
the choice is ultimately mine,
since I would be the one responsible
for carrying the child to full-term.
It's not a matter of being "happy"
or "unhappy", it's a matter
of fairness. If men had an equal
choice that wouldn't be fair,
because they don't have equal
responsibility. Until they do---blanketly
giving them equal choice would
Men already do have choice in
whether or not to "abort" their
so. And, unfortunately, many
men take advantage of this "choice"
in a way that negatively impacts
their children and partner.
How many women do you hear about
leaving their children and how
many men do?
If this thinking is becoming
popular within the men's movement,
that worries me. Because a men's
movement, like a women's movement,
should ideally be about equality
and balancing what isn't balanced.
As you explain it, what is in
actuality happening in the men's
movement is that men are seeking
freedom from their responsibilities.
I hope this helps.