for your note to FEMINIST.COM--though
as with most requests I get
at Ask Amy, I wish I
had an easy answer and I wish
that you could be writing under
are so many variables to your
situation, that it's hard to
give helpful advice, but I'll
1.) Depending on how old your
children are, perhaps they could
begin to take care of each other.
To help, you could maybe explain
your situation to your neighbors
and each neighborhood could
take a different night to be
"on-call." Maybe each neighbor
could even take turns with cooking
your children dinner on that
night. In exchange, you could
offer to take care of their
children when you are home.
2.) Do you have a relative or
a friend near by who could be
included in #1, too. Or even
one who would consider moving
in to help out. This is often
where grandparents are a great
resource--and usually more than
willing to help out.
3.) On a similar note, perhaps
you could find an elderly person
in the neighborhood who no longer
works and might be very willing
to help out.
4.) There is a child-care tax-credit
to help pay for child-care in/out
of the house, which is, I believe,
only $500 per child. So it's,
not much, but it's something.
5.) You should try contacting
your local YW/YMCA--they are
usually great places to discover
childcare. If something doesn't
already exist perhaps you could
propose a "child care cooperative"--where
you organize parents in a similiar
situation--and each of you could
take a day and help out.
I hope that helps--and I hope
you are able to work it out.
Where in California are you?
Perhaps I know someone in your