name is Ellen Pember and I am a Fashion student
in the final year of my degree at Wanganui Polytechnic,
New Zealand. I am writing to you in hope that
you can help answer a question which I have been
trying to resolve for a while now. I am interested
in looking at the virgin/whore complex - and the
idea of women being damned if they do and damned
if they don't - as the inspiration for a collection
of garments I have to produce at the end of the
year. I have looked at many different resources
on these topics but am yet to find a concise definition
of the virgin/whore complex. Do you have any ideas
where this information could be found? Do you
know the answer yourself? You are my last resort
because I have researched under so many different
terms already e.g. women's studies, gender, psychology,
sexuality , and I am yet to find anything that
has been overly beneficial. If you could help
me with this and email back asap I would appreciate
it very much.
you for your time,
don't think that there is a specific definition
for the virgin/whore complex - in fact, I think
that your definition is the best you are going
to find - damned if you do/damned it you don't.
There are two books that challenge this:
by Noami Wolf
by Leora Tannenbaum
talk about how women's sexuality has rarely been
owned by themselves. Even when they are the aggressors
- they are usually doing it to get the guy, not
for themselves, that's the common denominator.
Good luck with your project.