Help me please, I am 23 years old and am getting
married to my girlfriend of 3 years. We own a
house have two dogs and great jobs. Pretty normal
people. Except I am about to just give up on this
whole wedding. I thought that it was going to
be hard but not this hard.
one thing, we have to go and get married legally
in Vermont which is not a problem. It's not having
our family and friends there. Don't get me wrong,
they are all in support of our marrage. But it's
an 18-hour drive from here in VA. And my wedding
dress I can't see spending all that money on about
30 mins. And Danielle my fiance she has no clue
what she is going to wear, not a dressy girl,
but not a tux either. She is Methodist I am Wicca.
Can you imagine that ceremony?
Now tell me opposites don't attract!
But things are starting to fall apart the further
along I go. I want to go and get married and have
a beautiful wedding and reception but I can't
do so in being in Vermont away from all of my
friends and family. I just want to cry it's so
stressful. I can't sleep, Danielle is getting
ready for her brother's wedding in march. So she's
not helping a lot and doesn't seem interested
in the whole thing. Don't get me wrong, she wants
to get married -- it's just the planning she's
Please Amy, help me. Anything. The wedding will
be in July of 2003. I hope. I wanted this to be
the most greatest day of my life thus far. And
it seems to be falling apart more and more as
the days go by and the date gets closer. If you
have any suggestions...
I'm straight and thus can get married anywhere
-- I actually don't want to for all of the reasons
you have outlined. I think that you can get married
without having a wedding -- you have to figure
out what you want out of it.
it's the commitment, it's likely that you already
have that; if it's a public celebration you can
do that and not tell people it's not legal; it
it's a big party you can do that, too.
you lose sight of what you care about and have
tradition driving your wedding more than your
emotions, I think you should just check in and
see what you really want.