As a feminist, people are constantly assuming
or accusing me of being a lesbian. I want to
know how I should react to these questions
If someone mistook me for
a lesbian, I would not be insulted because
I do not think there is anything wrong or insulting
about homosexuality. However, I know some people
call me a lesbian to put me down and make me
feel bad about belonging to feminist organizations.
I feel conflicted because I am insulted by
their stereotyping and rudeness, but I don't
want to perpetuate the idea that homosexuality
is an insult. While I think it is unfair to
judge me based on the stereotype of a feminist,
at the same time, I do not wish to reject or
deny the contributions of lesbian feminists
to the movement.
Given all of these complications, how should
I respond when, on my way to a meeting of a feminist
organization, my friends ask me if I am going
to "lesbian club"?