I checked your website and didn't see any topics
addressing my concern. I have a relatively new
stepson (I moved in a year ago) who is now 12 years
old. He's in the 7th grade. Overall he's a delightful,
caring boy, who's not yet interested in dating.
I'll call him Jake for the sake of this letter
although that's not his real name.
Jake has some disturbingly sexist views. I suspect
he learned these from his mom's ex-husband, who
was abusive. Jake spent many of his formative years
living most of the time with his mom and the stepfather.
His dad (my husband) now has 90% custody of Jake.
My husband has never taken any feminist theory.
I have, but I am struggling to find the right words
to talk to my stepson and my husband to make it
clear how important this is. Do you know of any
resources I could use, or good books on this topic?
Here's some examples so you get an idea of what
I'm talking about. I had a Ms. magazine open on
the kitchen table to a page talking about rape
in the military. Jake is not familiar with that
magazine, but saw some of the statistics and said, "That's
really dumb. It's not true that women get raped
in the military. Women are always complaining." Or
he had a school assignment about Susan B Anthony
and had to interview a working woman. He said that
was the stupidest assignment he's ever had. Thanks
so much for your ideas!