Thanks for reaching out.
Most women I know have struggled with body image
issues -- even if they aren't willing to admit
it. We all think our bodies look differently
than they do. What has helped me and others is
to have a outlet to discuss this with other women
and to realize that while I might envy someone
else's legs, they hate them and they idolize
my stomach -- or something like that.
in others what we hate in ourselves, but it usually turns out that they
hate that very thing. In terms of worrying about
loosing control, there are other ways to control
your eating without starving yourself -- it's
important to experience weight as a physical
bodies each have different thresholds and they
are capable of different things. It's almost
not fair to compare to others, though that's
an impossible thing to ask of others, to not
compare ourselves. It's better to think about
what we uniquely need and what our bodies are
The reason people probably
think you are pregnant doesn't mean that they
think you are "fat" but that your body is growing in a specific
way - a way that probably isn't natural. It's not a comment about weight, but
about body image. Also, I know this won't sound realistic to you, but 88 is
very small and not normal -- it's really not about looking thin, but about looking
healthy. And I'm pretty certain that you can do that at around 100 pounds.
hope that you can get to the place that most people I know are at -- we
still hate things about our bodies, but we just
grow into them and learn to live with them as
status quo. And honestly when you are at this
place, more people will comment favorable on
your looks than ever before, because looks are
a mental thing -- how you feel is how you look.
I hope that's clear.