name is Erica, I am fourteen and I live in Wisconsin.
I am a lesbian and there aren't any girls like
that at my school. In fact a lot of people think
it's weird and absurd; however I can't control
my feelings and attractions towards girls and
I wanted to know how/where can I find people like
myself and how can I find a girlfriend? Are there
any signs or gestures I should look for when searching
for a girlfriend rather than a friend? Thank you
for your time, I am sure your reply will be helpful.
guess - knowing little about you and about your
community - is that there are actually others
like you, it's just that you don't know about
each other. Based on my own experiences and those
of my friends - this is a common scenario. You
think you are alone until someone dares to address
it - or "come out." There are also several organizations
that focus on lesbian issues - and through these
groups you can certainly find other people like
you. For instance, in Milwaukee, WI there is the
Lesbian Alliance of Metro Milwaukee, (414) 272-9442.
They have events and other forums where you can
certainly meet others like you. There is also
a web site called queeramerica.com
- which lists all of the groups in your area.
There are also queer/straight alliances at many
high schools across America - perhaps you can
form one at your high school or find out if one
already exists in your area. You can learn more
about such alliances at: www.studentprideusa.org
hope that helps - and trust me you aren't alone.
Thanks for making sure that others know that you
exist. I'm sure that your honesty will help others
to be honest as well.