I have contacted EVERY state department I can
think of, to no avail. I have a 15 year old step
daughter, that until this summer, lived with
me. She is now living with her Mother, who is
allowing her to date and have sexual relations
with a 27 year old man who is divorced with 2
kids. One of his kids lives full time with my
step daughter now, and calls her mommy.
Her father and I have gone to the police and
CPS. The police said we don't have enough evidence,
even though we have it in both of their writings
that this is going on. They actually told us
to do our own investigation, such as sitting
outside her mother's house and checking her underwear.
CPS investigated VERY briefly, went to the house,
asked her and her mother if this was going on,
they both denied it, and CPS pretty much washed
their hands. I am at a loss for where to turn.
Any advise would be very helpful.
Dear Jennifer --
What's unclear from your
note is what the actual custody report states.
If it states the child is suppose to be with
her father, that seems like a pretty easy thing
to revisit since otherwise what she is doing
is in violation of that court order. If that's
not the case, then perhaps you just need to revisit
custody document. The police, sadly, are only
going to intervene if there is "harm" --
and just dating isn't harm. However, if you can
prove that they have had sex, then that is their
jurisdiction since it would now be classified
as statutory rape.
If the child herself were
expressing interest in no longer being with her
mother, there are also advocacy organizations
for children -- namely Advocates for Children [Editor's
note: AFC has branches for each state. Use Google
yours here) It sounds like your
best bet might be to use the issue of custody
and revisit that document -- either to enforce
or to change it.
The court might appoint
a guardian ad litem to assess what is in the
child's best interest.