I am someone who has lived
with no solid "gender identity" as
a guy for almost 15 years...its mainly because the two major archetypes (the "macho" and
the "sensitive/Alan Alda") have both been rejected by most women..
What exactly do feminists mean when they "want their
men to be men"? (seems its asking the impossible since we don't know what
that is anymore.... unlike my father's age).
Male Citizen #995994-A33
Very good question.....
I think that women are confused about
what they want. On the one hand, they do
want men to be evolved when it comes to
gender -- that is choosing qualities rather
than assuming them. But in the end, I think
that as much as feminists want their men
to be evolved, they are also limited in
their imagination -- and choosing two roles obviously shouldn't be a complete
range. I think that most women I know want some combination of both -- they
want men to be professional successful, that is driven and motivated, not
bound to a financial interpretation of
success, they want them to be challenging,
but not aggressive, they want them to be able to converse about "male" things
and not be too much of "one of the girl's," but also understanding
of what it means to be a girl. It's different for everyone -- and my guess is
that though it sounds cliché, to just be yourself.